So there I was , in my bedroom , at 3 in the morning all alone – At my lazy best ; when out of nowhere I saw a wasp in the room , after being bothered for a few seconds , I got back to viewing TV until…
…that bloody wasp was just an inch from my face, and then I ran , I screamed , I picked up my newspaper and tried to hit it , I picked up my slippers and jumped to reach it around the roof, all in vain but I did not give up. I got a broom with a long stick and galloped at it for 30 minutes before I could make it rest in peace. Huh… Man was I tired!
This is how life moves – Go deeper and you will find the secret of all motivation in this incident.
Humans are emotional beings , they are motivated by either pleasure or pain. We get late and then we panic because now we can loose things. We sit and watch ‘Facebook’ until there are stomach cramps due to hunger. We wait and wait and wait before we go to the doctor. We act only when we see some pain or some pleasure attached to doing or not dong that action.
It’s either high pain or a high pleasure that makes us move; when moderate it pushes us to the zone of complacency, laziness and ignorance.
Allow me to draw a couple of similarities between the way this story has worked and the way motivation happens:
Exhibit A : Commonwealth 2010 – We were sitting on the idea for 10 years flat , now that it is matter of national pride everyone is pushed to work at the brink of the event.
Exhibit B: Similarly, when the wasp was in my room I dint care until it came close to my face and I felt threatened.
Both these situations are high pain situations where the fear of loss was the motivator. As we know that pain is not the only motivator, we have a stint with pleasure too , let me share what I feel about it .
Exhibit A: On a personal note, whenever I have been out on a date, the amount of effort I put in to make that date a success was correlated to how beautiful the woman was. More beauty means more effort.
Exhibit B: There is a friend of mine, Renuka; she works with a renowned credit card company. They have an interesting office and since she is into sales the pressure is always on. She is an average performer.
Here is how she works – She closes on an average 2 credit card applications every day. However when there is a scheme running for a 1000 INR shopping voucher for every 5 Credit Card Applications closed , she manages 10 of them and grabs the vouchers – Only she and the devil knows where those come from.
These are classic examples of the high pleasure principle. How great pleasure pushes people to act. The question that arises now is ‘How can you use this Pain and Pleasure Principle to motivate yourself?”
Here is what I do, I Question the possibilities with ‘What if?” questions and drive the issue to high pain or high pleasure.
Example: I need to lose weight but lack the motivation; I am not that heavy yet 😉
Q: What if I don’t lose it? A: I will be very obese.
Q: What if I become very obese? A: I will be less active and more prone to serious health issues like heart and orthopedic.
Q: How will all this make me feel? A: Embarrassed, as I won’t look good. Unhappy as I might get cranky and insecure. Heavy at heart as I will not be the one I used to be.
A: To keep feeling better and live a healthy life I will lose it!( High Pleasure Perspective)
B: To live a normal life and not be bedridden by the time I am 40, I will lose it! (High Pain Perspective)
This is what we call WIIFM (Whats in it for me?)
Motivation is nothing but the result of a strong WIIFM.
How strong is yours? Go Find.